Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself. {It Works Wonders}

If I’ve learned anything over the past two years, it’s that being less hard on yourself makes life a whole lot more enjoyable. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t hold yourself responsible for certain things and expect highly of yourself — but being too hard on yourself, especially when situations are out of your control, can lead to tons of unneeded stress and anxiety {which can in turn have negative impacts on your racing performance}.

Quite honestly, I used to be the type of person who would let everything get to me. If someone said something rude to me or about me that I found out about, I would obsess over it. Over analyze it. Basically, I over analyzed things waaaay too much.

And then, (okay, kind of corny), I did some soul searching this summer. And realized, with the help of my amazing family and best friends at home, that it was way more important for me to be a happy and fulfilled person than care about the few negative things people were saying or doing around me.

I knew it was time for me to be less hard on myself. To stop crying over silly things. To stop overanalyzing. Because it was starting to become a huge problem — and seriously affecting my happiness.

I’m sure many of you can relate — that it can sometimes be difficult to break out of the rut of self-put downs and over analyzing. But trust me, it’s worth it.


I started in small steps. To take things one day at a time — one hour at a time even, if needed. To take more deep breaths. To focus more on the myriad positive parts of my life and to stop being so hard on myself for every little thing.

And you know what?

Slowly but surely, I’m way happier now that I’m a little bit less hard on myself.

This isn’t to say that I don’t expect as much of myself, but I’ve definitely learned how to manage my feelings in a more productive way. To take things in stride, stay organized with goal-setting and expectations, and realize that I’m in a happy and awesome place — and that anyone who tries to take that away from me isn’t worth it. 🙂

This attitude took time (read: a lot of time) to build up, but it’s made a huge difference in my life — and especially in my athletic performance.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Life is crazy. It’s unexpected. And things happen that are out of your control. Breathe, stay true to yourself and realize that things will work out the way they’re supposed to. 

Do you notice that when you’re too hard on yourself (in a negative, non-productive manner) that it affects your athletic performance? How do you deal with this?

Tri Hard,